© GenBug

Hey Nina,

I’m hoping like hell that you guys are full of newborn baby bliss and that everything is going really really well. BUT, just in case it’s not – and you’re wondering if you will ever sleep again or ever not cry at the drop of a hat – I wanted to reach out to you to let you know – YOU ARE NOT ALONE and IT DOES GET BETTER!

Caleb will eventually develop a routine – he’ll eat well, sleep well, coo at you, smile. He’ll stop having problems latching, or with spitting up, reflux and gas. He’ll stop screaming for hours on end… He WILL be everything fantastic you ever imagined he would be.

Your nipples WILL stop hurting. They may go through several stages of bruising, bleeding, maybe even mastitis, but nursing does get easier.

You WILL sleep again, although not for a while. The good news is – in just a few short weeks you’ll forget what is was ever like to sleep for more than 3 hours at a time and you’ll just pop right out of bed without so much as a groan when he wants to eat. And then, before you know it, he’ll be sleeping through the night.

You WILL get your body back and your old clothes will fit even better than they did before. Your hair will stop falling out, your boobs will belong to you once again, and if you’re like me, just about then you’ll miss being pregnant and do it all over again!

Your marriage WILL survive this. It has never ceased to amaze me that just when a couple should be leaning on one another the most – through exhaustion, frustration and excitement – the stress makes you resentful, and short, and angry… On many occasion in the early weeks of each of our children Goat and I said “are we going to survive this? Will we ever be more than just our kids’ parents? Will we ever stop fighting over the smallest things because we’re so tired?” And so far, we’ve survived and those conversations have subsided… Harass Joanna to watch Caleb for a few hours so you guys can have a date night and just reconnect.

Your house WILL be clean again, the laundry WILL get done, the thank you notes written, the visitors will end… It DOES get better. So chin up, keep snuggling that precious baby boy, and if there is anything I can do to help – please say so.

Like I said, i really hope that none of this applies to you, and if it doesn’t then it is probably WAY too much of an overshare on my part… I just feel like there is so much “they” don’t tell you about having a newborn. So when you get home and you’re exhausted and overwhelmed and feeling inadequate – you think you might be the only woman in the world who ever felt that way. But you’re not. That is – if you do feel that way… .